i also don’t get it when people come down so hard on “born this way” rhetoric and make these sweeping statements about how people who use it are all regressive assimilationists or whatever… like it’s one thing if it’s a public campaign but so many of the people who say “i was born this way” are just people trying to keep from being rejected by their families and communities. when your family thinks being lgbt is something you’ve chosen in order to hurt them, who can blame you for telling them it isn’t, even if that’s not the world’s most politically perfect thing? i was just looking in a tag and saw a post by a teenage girl describing her fear and despair at her family’s aggressively homophobic dinner table conversation, ending with her plea, “please dont hate me i was born like this.” if you want to tell that girl that she has bad politics and is hurting the cause by suggesting that being lgbt is only ok if you can’t help it… well you can i guess but to me that seems like letting analysis trump people’s real circumstances and feelings and needs.
Karwendel, Germany (by Brock Whittaker)
Confidence isn’t walking into a room with your nose in the air, and thinking you are better than everyone else, it’s walking into a room and not having to compare yourself to anyone else in the first place.
Comedian and journalist Stella Young is tired of people telling her she’s an “inspiration” just for getting up in the morning. In a hilarious, hard-hitting, and thought-provoking talk at TEDxSydney, she explains why.
in a healthy, close relationship of any kind, when something upsets you, you need to bring it up. as soon as possible, even. cultivate an environment in which you both can talk about things that upset you, with the utmost attention to everyone’s feelings. it’s a really simple thing to do but it’s a thing i’ve been working on for a while and i’m getting actual nice things happening as a result
@WorstMuse is a relic of the human race